Therefore your possibly right opinion followed a wrong person...
Males of"big brother" type at least should not fall into category 8 as it is defined as those who have no desire to develop any sex-related relationship.
Of course if a guy is too eager to help, we can't help thinking there is "some ulterior motive other than just being a helpful, kind-hearted big brother", unless he is LeiFeng, believed to be a god created by our CCP?
But what I mention is someone who is willing to extend his hand and provide you with his truely insightful advice whenever you are found to be stuck in your life/career, and at the same time willing to stand away at other time.
In addition, I don't agree that nowadays there exists no such 吃饱了撑的人 if you know ppl's spritual need could be so diverse. Sometimes ppl help others just because they happen to belong to what those ppl concern or simply coz they deserve their help.
Occasionally I can have friends at my age help me to find a right direction along my life path, but so far no luck to know such a senior both willing to and capable of constantly guiding me. When I look back my foot prints, sometimes I realize I could have avoided so many errors made. Think that it would be much easier for you gals to meet so called "gui ren"...
Just some nonesense made during the tedeous time to backup my data...