高手 belong to nowhere. so i doubt how core is the problem of belonging.
self esteem recognition and self actulisation.
depend on what you think esteem and actulisation should based upon. if it's always on comparison and relative terms, you will never be satisfied. if it's based on an absolute subjective value system, you will not be competitive enough for this world. so I guess it's a freedom to be obsessive on what you choose rather than be obsessive on what others are obsessive about?
