分手了,还能不能做朋友?我和他缘分尽了,和平地分手,不再争吵,不再论什么是非曲直了,他也不再挽回了. 可是他依然习惯一样的每天一个电话,互相问候着,只是不再触及那些伤心的过往. 我以为我可以和他就这样淡下来,做朋友了. 大家觉得呢?

I think it's a yes for meBut I have to say that most people won't do that as they cannot or rather have very poor control over their emotional feeling and needs. I still remember the days that I have poor control, which has caused some problems. However, i still feel that the process could be learned if you two are trying very hard. Although I wasn't given proper chances, I managed to be friends of two of my ex, we still keep in touch, talk about our life plans, send gifts to each other, write post-cards and sometimes call to say hi. I even got a wedding invitation from one of them. The only obstacle for that not happening is that you guys give up trying or the feeling's still there and one fails to accept the fact. Anyway, I strongly feel it's a very good learning experience as a lot of westerners can do that but why not us? The only reason I can think of that not many Asians can is that we don't have many chances to try or we don't try at all just like my other exes. Nevertheless, even if you decid (more...)