不必放在心上褒贬都很正常。足够自洽的话,两者都不值得当真,更不值得刻意去寻求。
别人喜欢我,或者不喜欢我,不过是因为我本身表现出来的某些方面,刚好符合或违背了他们自己内心想要凸显的那面罢了。
“一个人看另一个人都是不准确的。我们学过物理都知道,隔着眼镜看这人,这是折射的结果,都是略有偏差的,只不过偏差大小而已。”
Observer-expectancy effect vs. Observer effect
当我们开始观察,我们就改变了被观察者的结局。
You have been chosen not because who you are but because who you might become...
You have been chosen not because who you are but because who you might become...