Jidu, please do not distort my words anymore.Every post you mentioned me, must be attacking my character. I commented only your actions, you comment on my character. Worst, you asked people to turn against. Stop pretending to be a wounded sheep beside a wolf. I know you got many fans here. I will not comment on you anymore, so stop comment on me too. Thanks.
阿弥驼佛,语言是把双刃剑......
Frankly, I am surprised to know that "HUO YING" = "BLS" = YONG XIN. Phychologically, you are using "BLS" to make some "frank" statement just to show that you are not "agreeing" to some of the "BLS" behaviour too.
No matter how "frank" or how "true" or how "real" your statement is, we need to put it across to another person in an "effective" way. This will really depend on your intention on whether you really want to put the message across to the person or just want to vent your frustration by shooting directly to the person.
Communication is not easy in this world, some more in forum without the enhancement of "body language" We all need to be appreciated and wanting to accept the comments in nicer way. You do it very well as "HUO YING" but do it terribly bad as "BLS", what happened to you?
Even father to son nowadays, we need to know how to put the message across nicely, dun talk about the chess friend here in forum, if you are sincere to put the message across to your chess friends, please choose carefully the words and the way you express it, it really makes a big difference.
I myself used to be a person who talk bluntly and use "I am frank" as excuses in many occasions last time, I get many comments from my peers/friends/relatives after that, I am picking up slowly nowadays to improve myself.....As a friend, we do hope we can change for a better person....
I am sharing with you some of my life experience, no offence to you I hope.....:)
No matter how "frank" or how "true" or how "real" your statement is, we need to put it across to another person in an "effective" way. This will really depend on your intention on whether you really want to put the message across to the person or just want to vent your frustration by shooting directly to the person.
Communication is not easy in this world, some more in forum without the enhancement of "body language" We all need to be appreciated and wanting to accept the comments in nicer way. You do it very well as "HUO YING" but do it terribly bad as "BLS", what happened to you?
Even father to son nowadays, we need to know how to put the message across nicely, dun talk about the chess friend here in forum, if you are sincere to put the message across to your chess friends, please choose carefully the words and the way you express it, it really makes a big difference.
I myself used to be a person who talk bluntly and use "I am frank" as excuses in many occasions last time, I get many comments from my peers/friends/relatives after that, I am picking up slowly nowadays to improve myself.....As a friend, we do hope we can change for a better person....
I am sharing with you some of my life experience, no offence to you I hope.....:)
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