人比人，气死人。看到你人家的加薪，再看自己的，哎没心情工作了。
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淡定工作第一年加薪1680块（年薪）的飘过。[ffnffn (2-17 17:13, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]2楼
没什么的第一年工作，月薪不到2000的飘过。[江南骑马Style (2-17 17:15, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]3楼
(引用 ffnffn:淡定工作第一年加薪1680块（年薪）的飘过。)不错了。第一次加薪只有120最近一次加薪只有184 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [灵山 (2-17 17:15, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]4楼
别生气了阿，不要因为别人事情伤了自己的心啊~这年头加50的也有，加1000多的也有，甚至5000的我都看到了，还有干了很多年还不如人家刚毕业的也有，还有PHD拿的还不如dip也有，真的没什么可比的，平衡一下心态~一切都是浮云，我还看到之前在麦当劳做服务生的现在老板给买了volvo的也有，而且人家不是卖身的，就是老板喜欢阿，觉得她人很好，那次看到我还以为是美呆了的那种美女，其实好一般阿，是我老板朋友。所以什么样子的人都有，楼主别难过了~[AllenC (2-17 17:24, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]5楼
(引用 灵山:不错了。第一次加薪只有120最近一次加薪只有184)年薪阿亲平均140/月。[ffnffn (2-17 17:30, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]6楼
(引用 ffnffn:年薪阿亲平均140/月。)是啊，比我好嘛！ [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [灵山 (2-17 17:51, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]7楼
淡定呗淡定呗人比人，你也可以笑开花啊，你看我今年就加了51快，打发叫花子都不够
都出国了，大环境算好很多了，这要是在家里，爹妈整天唠叨别人家孩子，那你不更气死了
[Itachi (2-17 17:58, Long long ago)]
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为什么要攀比呢？华新有个怪风气就是用自己的幸福和成功往别人伤口上撒盐
遇到感情问题的帖子，就会有一群人跳出来各种晒幸福，晒甜蜜。遇到不满薪水待遇的帖子，就会有一群人跳出来晒工资晒涨幅。
除非你是首富，不然赚得再多都会有人比你还多，这么比多累啊，一点幸福感都没有。[今天你华新了吗 (2-17 18:03, Long long ago)]
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(引用 今天你华新了吗:为什么要攀比呢？华新有个怪风气就是用自己的幸福和成功往别人伤口上撒盐 遇到感情问题的帖子，就会有一群人跳出来各种晒幸福，晒甜蜜。�...)我觉得不光是华新的问题华人大部分都这样吧。。。[Itachi (2-17 18:04, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]10楼
(引用 ffnffn:淡定工作第一年加薪1680块（年薪）的飘过。)那是以前。今时不同往日，你在银行这个高大上行业混迟早赚大钱。2012年一个朋友的朋友从新加坡花旗调去香港，薪水翻倍，并提供住房，不过她在银行业做了很多年，独身，50多岁。 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [ninilola (2-17 19:10, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]11楼
(引用 AllenC:别生气了阿，不要因为别人事情伤了自己的心啊~这年头加50的也有，加1000多的也有，甚至5000的我都看到了，还有干了很多年还不如人家刚毕�...)谢谢你的安慰。能力不够，怨自己，不管怎样，先努力，不努力什么都没有了。 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [ninilola (2-17 19:12, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]12楼
(引用 Itachi:淡定呗淡定呗人比人，你也可以笑开花啊，你看我今年就加了51快，打发叫花子都不够 都出国了，大环境算好很多了，这要是在家里，爹妈整天�...)所以我不回国呀。知道自己是什么样的角色。 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [ninilola (2-17 19:13, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]13楼
(引用 今天你华新了吗:为什么要攀比呢？华新有个怪风气就是用自己的幸福和成功往别人伤口上撒盐 遇到感情问题的帖子，就会有一群人跳出来各种晒幸福，晒甜蜜。�...)话是这么说，可是中国人不都爱比吗，从生比到死，从攀比中感觉幸福。我心态不好，也是俗人一个。 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [ninilola (2-17 19:16, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]14楼
(引用 ninilola:所以我不回国呀。知道自己是什么样的角色。)那就多比比不如你的呗你要是觉得比不如自己的没意思，然后又老跟比你强的比，那不是逼死自己了么[Itachi (2-17 19:18, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]15楼
(引用 Itachi:那就多比比不如你的呗你要是觉得比不如自己的没意思，然后又老跟比你强的比，那不是逼死自己了么)的确如此。快挂了。wo [ninilola (2-17 19:31, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]16楼
(引用 ninilola:那是以前。今时不同往日，你在银行这个高大上行业混迟早赚大钱。2012年一个朋友的朋友从新加坡花旗调去香港，薪水翻倍，并提供住房，不过...)求银行收了我吧。。。 [本文发送自华新手机Wap版] [ffnffn (2-17 20:02, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]17楼
已经5年不涨工资的人皮妖过~今年还跌了不少...[八萬 (2-17 20:10, Long long ago)] [ 传统版 | sForum ][登录后回复]18楼
拿银牌的比拿铜牌的更为不满ztIs It Better to Win Bronze Than Silver？
Imagine that for most of your life, you have been preparing for the Olympics. You are intensely competitive, and you badly want to win. But you know that in your event, only one person can win Olympic gold, and that only three can bring home a medal. Silver is better than bronze, of course; it’s great to be third in the world, but it’s even better to be second.
Or is it?
Research suggests that in the Olympics, those who finish third are likely to be a lot happier than those who finish second. The reason is that much of our thinking is based on counterfactuals. We like to ask: What else could have happened?
If you finish second, you tend to think that with a little good luck, or maybe a bit of extra effort or skill, you might have gotten the prize of a lifetime: Olympic gold. But if you finish third, you tend to think that with a little bad luck, or without that extra effort or skill, you wouldn’t have gotten the prize of a lifetime: an Olympic medal.
The central evidence was compiled in 1995 by three researchers, Victoria Medvec, now at the Kellogg School of Management at Northwestern University, Thomas Gilovich of Cornell University and Scott Madey, now at Shippensburg University. They asked 20 objective observers -- people with little or no interest in sports -- to watch clips of a set of silver and bronze medalists, both immediately after their events and on the medal stand. The observers were asked to “code” the happiness of the athletes on a scale of 0 to 8.
The observers, who made their decisions independently, showed quite strong agreement with one another (thus suggesting that the same results would be found with a larger number of them). The results were unambiguous: The bronze medalists were a lot happier. Immediately after the event, their mean rating was 7.1, close to the highest score and far higher than the 4.8 for silver medalists. On the medal stand, the ratings went a bit down for both, but the bronze medalists were still far ahead: 5.7 compared with 4.3.
Medvec and her colleagues also studied interviews of silver and bronze medal winners after their events. They asked a group of observers to rate the athletes’ comments, in those interviews, on a 10-point scale, which was meant to capture gratification or instead disappointment, with “1” meaning “at least I got a medal” and “10” meaning “I almost did better.”
Here too the results were clear. The silver medalists were at an average 5.7 on the 10-point scale, meaning that they were thinking a fair bit about how they could have gotten the gold. By contrast, the bronze medalists were at just 2.37, meaning that they were basking in their own achievement, and weren't making comparisons with those who did better.
These findings are worth keeping in mind as we watch the reactions, sometimes disappointed and sometimes exuberant, of those who fall a bit short in Sochi. They also have broader implications, covering circumstances and events of many kinds. Much of the time, our emotional reactions depend on counterfactuals.
For example, travelers are almost certainly more upset to miss a train or a flight by 5 minutes than by 30 minutes. If you get a 3 percent raise, your reaction is likely to depend on whether you focus on the equivalent of the gold (a 10 percent raise) or instead on something akin to no medal at all (a frozen salary). If you manage to survive a serious illness, you will be a lot better off if you focus on the bad counterfactual (death) than on the good one (not getting the illness at all).
A brilliant Swedish movie from 1985, "My Life As a Dog," tells the tale of Ingemar, a 12-year-old boy who suffers a stream of misfortunes, including the terminal illness of his mother. Amid his struggles, Ingemar has a catchphrase, almost a mantra: “It's important to have things to compare with.”
As comparison points, Ingemar chooses terrible tragedies, such as train wrecks and motorcycle accidents. He concludes that in contrast with those in his comparison set, he has been pretty lucky.
Most of us can't dream of competing in the Olympics, but our well-being often depends on whether we focus on how close we came to the gold -- or on how fortunate we were to grab the bronze.
(Cass R. Sunstein, the Robert Walmsley University professor at Harvard Law School, is a Bloomberg View columnist. He is a former administrator of the White House Office of Information and Regulatory Affairs, the co-author of “Nudge” and author of “Conspiracy Theories and Other Dangerous Ideas,” forthcoming in March.)
To contact the writer of this article: Cass R. Sunstein at csunstei@law.harvard.edu.[新股新人 (2-17 20:14, Long long ago)]
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(引用 ffnffn:求银行收了我吧。。。)我以为你在银行。
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