分手了,还能不能做朋友?我和他缘分尽了,和平地分手,不再争吵,不再论什么是非曲直了,他也不再挽回了. 可是他依然习惯一样的每天一个电话,互相问候着,只是不再触及那些伤心的过往. 我以为我可以和他就这样淡下来,做朋友了. 大家觉得呢?

话说分了手就不要试图用暧昧朋友关系来维系了

I think it's a yes for meBut I have to say that most people won't do that as they cannot or rather have very poor control over their emotional feeling and needs. I still remember the days that I have poor control, which has caused some problems. However, i still feel that the process could be learned if you two are trying very hard. Although I wasn't given proper chances, I managed to be friends of two of my ex, we still keep in touch, talk about our life plans, send gifts to each other, write post-cards and sometimes call to say hi. I even got a wedding invitation from one of them. The only obstacle for that not happening is that you guys give up trying or the feeling's still there and one fails to accept the fact. Anyway, I strongly feel it's a very good learning experience as a lot of westerners can do that but why not us? The only reason I can think of that not many Asians can is that we don't have many chances to try or we don't try at all just like my other exes. Nevertheless, even if you decid (more...)

我同意。不和那人联系并不完全是因为还对那人有想法。也可能是对自己的过去觉得恶心。 比如：我那是怎么会看上他/她？ 所以，为了不否定自己，最好不和ex联系咯。 这只是提醒，大家都倾向于理解的情况的另一种可能。 况且：你真的就这么缺这个朋友吗？如果放得下了，一定自己活得也很好，干吗非要回头看。

我又犯错误了？

谢谢你,可能从心底里还有着什么期许吧我们没有第三者,双方父母都同意,可是在我们计划着结婚和以后的生活时,他退缩了,终于有一天他问我和他结婚我会幸福吗?我当时就呆掉了.我知道这句话的意思是:他和我结婚他不会幸福.一切就这样子突然间掉头了.我能理解他的苦衷,他的无奈,他的不确定.可是爱情退了谁也阻挡不了...就这样几年的感情化整为零.可能彼此都有不舍吧,所以现在就带着惆怅带着遗憾,互相问候着,割舍不了...