网上看到的，类似这里给家用还学费，一言难尽原文：（目前reddit原帖已被本人删除） I have 280k in medical school loans. My wife has 0 student loan. My parents agreed to pay off my loans so I can save on paying interest. My wife knew about these loans prior to marriage and understood I would need to pay my parents back. My wife now does not think it’s fair she came with no student loans. I make around 6x more than my wife bc of my education. My wife thinks her parents are being punished for having paid off all her education (college and masters). My wife also points out her parents helped substantially in raising our two kids for the last 5 years (cooking, cleaning, taking the babies at night, live in babysitting, etc) while we work. I owe my parents 280k. Wife wants us to pay her parents 280k as well. Edit: Wife’s parents paid around 200k of her education which we are not expected to pay back. Wife’s parents are well off financially and do not need money. Wife parents love their daughter and wanted to help w (more...)

不要给孩子们还大学学费。坡坡这里父母也是不给孩子们还大学学费。所以咱们中国过来的，也要记得入乡随俗，随大流，让自己的孩子带着贷款进入婚姻，减少未来孩子们之间的矛盾。

应该说要留一手，保留权利如果遇到对方家长要还，那就对等待遇，如果遇到对方家长不用还，那就免单

一个学费这么点就这么纠结了。。。买房子要是有父母赞助，那不是更纠结。。。