供参考http://www.ext.colostate.edu/pubs/consumer/10248.html Guidelines for Parents From a number of research studies plus Tavris, the following guidelines are suggested for building child self-control and self-esteem. 1. Learn to deal with your own and others' anger. When parents discipline out of anger or with expectations that are inappropriate for the age of their child, they often make mistakes in the way they react. The place to begin is with ourselves. When we feel calm, we can model effective anger and conflict management. Example: "I'm so angry at you right now for dumping your cereal all over the clean floor, I feel like hitting you. But I don't hit, so I'm going to leave and come back when I've calmed down." 2. Distract or redirect the child. When a child is misbehaving, a calm parent can sometimes re-direct the child's behavior. Example: "Here's a bowl of warm water. Let's put it outside where you can splash all you want." 3. Be prompt and brief with discipline. One technique you can use is (more...)