不过还是会继续得关注。该面对的，还是要面对。

整个晚上都很乖，吃饭，出去玩，回家喝牛奶等等。然后妞爸要喂妞吃药就开始闹了：坚决的不肯吃，大发脾气，握着拳头咬牙切齿声嘶力竭的喊叫，魔音穿脑，还打她爸爸，结果她爸也回打了一两下。我没打她，带进小黑屋关起来，我就一声不吭的蹲在旁边等她冷静下来告知：生病了就要吃药，不吃药不要想出去！每说一次都要引来她新一轮的发火，直到真的“绝望”了或者说闹累了，终于把药吃了。这个半个多小时闹过去了。

然后又来了，药也吃了，也从小黑屋放出来了，追着我到冰箱前大闹：“我还要吃药！”我没有办法，又弄了一点点药水给喝下去，结果不依不饶：“我还要吃药！还要吃很多很多药！！”然后睡在冰箱前面打滚，跟之前一样声嘶力竭的嘶喊哭闹。。。

我不知道她是故意气我呢还是怎么滴，小朋友的世界大人真的无法理解啊：之前费劲千辛万苦求她吃药不吃，现在吃了又没完没了的要多吃。。。你真当这是糖水么？！况且那个消炎抗生素是悬浊液，虽然也有甜味，但口感很涩，她一直都不太肯吃，没有咳嗽药水或者退烧药吃的那么痛快。

结果又是半个多钟头。。。我都不知道她哪里来的那么多精力可以闹。晚上居然还又磨蹭到11点多才睡！睡觉前又跟我磨要讲故事，我说今晚她闹的太过分了，作为惩罚没有故事听，她又要发作，我说你再发脾气明天也没有故事听！总算及时制止了苗头。

这孩子好像一开始发脾气就完全没有理智，说什么，哄什么，怎么打岔转移注意力都没有用，一定要她发够了脾气发泄完了才能停止。这大了可怎么得了。。。

有问过医生，医生说是荷尔蒙变化引起，有人脾气变差，脾气差的人反而可能变好。感觉孕期明显脾气比平时暴躁，尤其初期，像个火药桶，后来还好一点。

反正什么都是荷尔蒙的错：睡不好，总是夜里醒来无数次，肌肉骨骼关节酸痛，皮肤敏感长痘。。。

就是看我放了太多菜在他的盘子里，然后就。。。开始给我要玩具。。。搞了半天我才明白他要什么，然后就一个劲的哭啊哭啊哭，好像岔气了一样挺不下来，开始我还不知道原因是什么，就哄阿，教育啊，都没用。。。哭得我觉得他都快吐出来了。好像是条件反射似的停不下来。。。终于最后抱着他走，然后受不了了，不理他自己闷头吃饭，然后想象好像是放太多菜了，他还怕吃不了，就把他盘子里的菜弄出来一些， 他就蹭过来了吃饭了。折腾了半个多小时。

虽然我没有经验，但是好像小小孩也有叛逆期的

就是大人辛苦点，mm加油！

害怕，希望我家宝宝长大和我一样乖。。。

多少有一些完美主义，但不会为了鞋带搞上十分钟。。。急得比较快，所以就早一点帮他做。。。

在圣经故事中，雅各和一个人摔跤，那人其实是天使，雅各虽然已经受伤了，但还是坚持着没有放弃，直到天使给他祝福。
在佛教故事中，当魔鬼出现在洞穴里时，尊者密勒日巴并没有生气或是害怕，只是给魔鬼喝茶，直至魔鬼消失。
希望mm可以坚持和冷静。
mm有时间可以多和孩子玩身体对抗游戏或是过家家角色互换游戏，前者可以帮助孩子摆脱不良情绪找回真正的自我，后者可以让父母了解孩子的需求，身体对抗游戏如果和父亲一起玩最好，最简单的就是枕头大战还有角力。
我现学现卖奥，祝mm快快开心起来。

亲戚家的两个小孩也是到了两岁多总是莫名其妙的哭闹。不过听说到了4岁就非常懂事了。可能是必经阶段吧，我儿子最近也开始这样了，呵呵先学习了一招，必要时可以丢门外

原来，这是个常态呀。。。少数小孩挺好的，其它全是这样的，就变得淡定了。

我家老大也是很多问题，一言难尽......

http://www.ext.colostate.edu/pubs/consumer/10248.html

Guidelines for Parents

From a number of research studies plus Tavris, the following guidelines are suggested for building child self-control and self-esteem.

1. Learn to deal with your own and others' anger.

When parents discipline out of anger or with expectations that are inappropriate for the age of their child, they often make mistakes in the way they react. The place to begin is with ourselves. When we feel calm, we can model effective anger and conflict management. Example: "I'm so angry at you right now for dumping your cereal all over the clean floor, I feel like hitting you. But I don't hit, so I'm going to leave and come back when I've calmed down."

2. Distract or redirect the child.

When a child is misbehaving, a calm parent can sometimes re-direct the child's behavior. Example: "Here's a bowl of warm water. Let's put it outside where you can splash all you want."

3. Be prompt and brief with discipline.

One technique you can use is to pick up and remove your small child from the room immediately and isolate him or her for two to five minutes. This also gives you time to get in control of your emotions. Two to five minutes are enough; lecturing is unnecessary. In rare circumstances, it may be helpful to physically hold the child. Be consistent in enforcing rules, especially with older, school-age children. Example: "I'm putting you in your room for 'time out' until you calm down and are ready to talk again." "I want you to go to your room now and stay there until you are ready to come out and use words to ask for what you want rather than spitting on people."

4. Try to discover the reason for your child's anger or temper tantrum.

What does he or she want and is not getting? The reasons children have temper tantrums vary: to get attention, get someone to listen, protest not getting their way, get out of doing something they do not want to do, punish a parent for going away, for power, for revenge, from fear of abandonment, etc. Let the child know the behavior is unacceptable. Talk calmly. Example: "Now that we're out of the store and we've both had a chance to calm down, let's talk. I think you were mad at me that I said no to buying the candy you wanted. Is that right?" ... "It is OK for you to be angry at me, but kicking, screaming and yelling that you want candy won’t work. It won’t get me to buy you the candy.”

5. Avoid shaming your child about being angry.

Children in healthy families are allowed to express all their feelings, whether they are pleasant or unpleasant.They are not criticized or punished for having and expressing feelings appropriately, including anger. Some research studies have found that parents' shaming their child's anger can negatively affect their child's willingness to relieve distress in others (10). Example: "You look and sound angry right now. I'd feel angry too if someone messed up my coloring like she messed up yours."

6. Teach children about intensity levels of anger.

By using different words to describe the intensity of angry feelings (e.g., annoyed, aggravated, irritated, frustrated, angry, furious, enraged), children as young as 2 1/2 can learn to understand that anger is a complex emotion with different levels of energy (10). Example: "I was annoyed when I had a hot meal ready and all of you were late for dinner." "That man was so angry -- I think he was enraged after someone spray painted his business with graffiti."

7. Set clear limits and high expectations for anger management, appropriate for your child's age, abilities, and temperament.

As parents, we will be angry all the time if we expect our 1-year-old to be toilet trained, our 2-year-old to use 5-year-old words rather than have a temper tantrum, our shy 8-year-old to be a life-of-the-party magician, and our low self-esteem 15-year-old to snap out of her depressed "funk" and run for Student Council President. Example: "While I want you to know it's OK to feel angry, it's not OK to hit others!" "I expect you to help with chores, control your anger without hitting, biting or spitting. I expect you to be honest and thoughtful of others, do your best in school, ask for what you want, and treat others as you would like to be treated."

8. Notice, compliment and reward appropriate behavior.

Teaching your child to do the right things is better (and easier) than constantly punishing bad behavior. Children who get a steady diet of attention only for bad behavior tend to repeat those behaviors because they learn that is the best way to get our attention, especially if we tend to be overly authoritarian. Example: "I really liked the way you asked Uncle Charlie to play ball with you." "Thanks, Ebony, for calling me beforehand and asking if you could change your plans and go over to your friend's house after school."

9. Maintain open communication with your child.

Consistently and firmly enforce rules and explain the reasons for the rules in words your child can understand. Still, you can listen well to your child's protests about having to take a national test or measles shot. Example: "Sounds like you are angry at the school rule that says you can't wear shorts, sandals and tank tops to school."

10. Teach understanding and empathy by calling your child's attention to the effects of his or her actions on others.

Invite the child to see the situation from the other person's point of view. Healthy children feel remorse when they do something that hurts another. Authoritative discipline helps them develop an internal sense of right and wrong. Remember, a little guilt goes a long way, especially with a child. Example: "Let's see if we can figure out what happened. First she did her 'nah, nah, nah routine.' Next, I saw you take her doll. Then she came and hit you, and you hit her back."

Beyond the Tantrum Stage

Most tantrums and angry outbursts come and go as children and youth grow in their ability to use language and learn to solve problems using words. But occasionally, fits of temper and violence persist into elementary school and may signal serious problems. Sometimes there are biological sources of anger that require diagnosis by a physician or psychologist.

If someone is getting hurt or if you use the suggestions listed in this fact sheet and nothing seems to work, it is time to get professional help. Ask your physician, school guidance counselor or psychologist for names of those skilled in working with children on anger issues. Or, check the yellow pages under counselors, for psychologists and marriage and family therapists who specialize in child behavioral problems.

妞一早醒了又嚎哭：还要睡觉，没有睡好，把灯关掉！！ 并且拼命翻滚不给我碰。

我先给她哭了5分钟没理会，等她哭的差不多清醒了，然后就反复的尝试这几句话：“妈妈知道你没睡好心情不好是吧？我很理解你。。。没关系一会就好了，妈妈爱你！”

说了两三遍妞就扁着嘴让我抱了，然后坐在腿上靠在我怀里又扁着嘴哼唧了两分钟就镇定下来了，接下来顺风顺水的冲凉换衣服刷牙吃饭。。。新记录啊！！

跟我们家老大简直一模一样。我已经打了好多次了，打也没用，把自己气得不行。现在的娃咋这么难缠呀。

要理解孩子。不能跟她反着，要顺着。