妞最大的问题就在于：她想要的一定要马上得到满足，否则就大闹这点很像我家婆。。。她要做的事情，每次都是不停的催促别人放下手头一切事情去帮她完成。至今记得婚礼过后第二天带双方父母去超市采购，她要我带她去买糖果，在超市没有找到满意的，我说我知道附近一间糖果店，待会带她过去，她就马上不停的催，就差扯着我直接走人：“那你快带我去啊，还在这里磨蹭什么？这里还有什么好看的？！快走快走！”这时候我爸妈一直在旁边挑选咖啡没有走到意思。。。她扯着我拼命催走人我觉得真是很丢脸啊！
妞出世后每次出门，她总是丢下一句:我带孩子先走了，你们跟上，然后就两手空空抱着妞下楼了。等我们收拾完一大包东西再推车下楼却怎么也找不到她了，不知道带孩子溜达去哪里了，有次我们转遍了整个小区也没找到她，还差点误了飞机。在楼下坐了半天生闷气，她终于抱着孩子出现还我们太磨蹭了，现在才下来！
现在妞也是一样：她想到什么要求，马上就一直不停的念经，一定要马上得逞，否则就开闹。无论怎样解释，怎样转移注意力，除非能碰巧找到让她更感兴趣的东西，否则就是一直要大闹到精疲力竭才放弃。而我们要求她的总是当耳边风，这边要出门了，她在磨磨蹭蹭不肯穿鞋了，还要玩玩具了，还要这样那样� (more...)
转两段老塞的原文给你，应该有效。
I have found only one really good use for explicit positive reinforcement with my kids: changing frowns into smiles. All of our kids went through a period of "I want" and "Gimme," with "please" reluctantly appended. But the request usually occurred with a frown or a whine. We made it explicit that a frown plus "I want" invariably resulted in a "no," but when accompanied by a cheery smile; it might result in a "yes."
Darryl, just four, has been whining and pouting for several days running at bedtime about wanting to stay up for another ten minutes. The next morning, Mandy sits him down for a chat. "Darryl," she says, drawing a face with no mouth on a piece of paper, "what face have you been showing at bedtime?" Darryl draws a big frown in the circle.
"What have you been frowning about at bedtime?"
''I want to stay up and keep playing. "
"So you've been frowning and whining and complaining at me then, right?"
"Right."
''Is it getting you what you want? Is Mommy letting you stay up for an extra ten minutes when you whine and complain?"
"No."
"What kind of a face do you think will get Mommy to let you stay up a bit longer?" asks Mandy, drawing another mouthless face.
“A smiley face?" guesses Darryl, drawing an upturned mouth.
"You bet. Try it out. It usually works." And it does.
总原则就是一旦出现哭闹，就肯定得不到想要的，原先许诺的也全部取消。这个一定要坚持，很快就有效果的。
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